Have you ever watched the HBO series “Six Feet Under”?
It is a drama about a family who runs a funeral home after the father, Nathaniel Fisher, dies. Nathaniel, however, still ‘comes back’ regularly in the episodes, as a spirit, to talk to the family. Here is a great excerpt from Season 4, Episode 12, where Nathanial is talking to his son David:
Nathaniel Fisher: You hang on to your pain like it means something. Like it’s worth something. Well, let me tell you – it’s not worth shit. Let it go! Infinite possibilities, and all he can do is whine.
David Fisher: Well, what am I supposed to do?
Nathaniel Fisher: What do you think? You can do anything, you lucky bastard – you’re alive! What’s a little pain compared to that?
David Fisher: It can’t be that simple.
Nathaniel Fisher: What if it is?
Whether we are going through a challenge, feeling restless, or think our goals and dreams are unattainable, we have to remember that most of us have the physical capability and the social and financial capacity, to figure out how to do, achieve or have anything we want.
But we don’t. We get paralysis by analysis. Or, we allow fear and “what-ifs” to slip in. We let society dictate our ‘shoulds’, instead of fulfilling our inner ‘musts’. Our big goals become too hard. Or, people tell us it is a dumb goal.
Think about this: What if… you are on your deathbed and you suffer regrets?
Now, that is something to fear.
“I get pretty impatient with people who are able-bodied, but are somehow paralyzed for other reasons.” – Christopher Reeve
We need to find that one thing, that is our biggest, scariest, “dumbest” dream or goal and just go for it.
D.U.M.B.: Daring, Uncomfortable, Meaningful, Bold
Get hungry. Get restless. Get going.
The only risk in life is not taking one.
Since the journey can be just as fun as the destination, we can start the journey by planning and dreaming now. Not tomorrow. Not on Monday. Not on the 1st. Not after FIRE.
What do you think? Can it really be that simple? Do you have a dream that you’re afraid is unrealistic or that you can’t attain? Or, are you already well on your way to planning or actively achieving your biggest, scariest, dumbest goal of all?